I spend a lot of time thinking what i am going to do in the future. Sometimes i lose sleep b/c i have so much on my mind. Poker has been very good to me so far this year, and I know I am capable of making a TON of money..easily 80-100k if I can play well and often enough. While that would be a lot of money, it doesn't make my life goals all that easier. Because its not a guaranteed salary, and i need to have a big % in my Bankroll, it will take me a while to be able to afford a house and family. Maybe i'm crazy and I don't need to be making this a big deal over the next year or two, but I can honestly say I want to get married in the next 3-4 years and have kids in my early 30s. Ok, seeing this written down as opposed to hearing it in my head, i have determined that i am indeed crazy. I think the only problem i have with my goal is the money in my bankroll doesn't seem real to me, maybe that day i get to withdrawal 20k from my roll it will hit me how much money that is.
Anyways, now that that's out of the way.. I have decided to take a long break from poker to gather myself. Haven't played in 4 days and i'm leaving for Key west in 14 hours. Going to be down there for 5-6 days, will probably play a couple FTOPS tournaments, but other than that its going to be a poker free trip. When i get back i will try to get back on track. Maybe watch a couple of Jared's sessions to sharpen my instincts, and then i'm going to try to play 3500+ hands/day until the Vegas trip. Current Roll: 20,000. Hopefully i can get back to my winning ways and get my roll to 35k before the Vegas trip. I also plan on making some videos for PokerDynasty and maybe do some coaching sessions if i can find some students to take under my wing.
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hey spear hope you have fun on vacation. Probably exactly what you'll need to get your poker zeal back. I am currently married and I just want to share with you that Money is not a big issue in a marriage. I understand you want to be ready when you start a family and you want to be financially ready, but as long as you have a woman who you love and that loves you, thats all that matters. Let money and the rest take care of itself. Do what makes you happy man, thats all that matters in life.
What kind of rates would you be charging for coaching?
Flamm, I would have to disagree with your theory there, my friend. Money is always an issue in a marriage. Maybe not in yours yet but there may come a day when that isssue will raise it's ugly head. Money to women equals security. Most women, IMO, are always concerned about the future and financial security goes a long way in ensuring they don't have to worry as much. If/ when you get married, spear and she says she needs like 3 months expenses in the bank to feel comfortable..... bump it up to 6 months and you'll never have to worry again. Still waiting on that cobia :).......
My $.02
thats why you find a woman whose been poor her whole life, then you never have too little money.
and i disagree, if a woman really loves you then "having 3 months expenses" in the bank isn't important. At least I wouldn't want a woman who feels that way. I think money becomes an issue later in life, when you've accumulated things and become accustomed to a certain lifestyle and then all of a sudden it changes, thats when finances break up marriages. IMO
My opinion on having living expensives put away or savings in general is that one CAN be fortunate enough to find a spouse who is not skewed by financial situations.
I differ in this area because I feel that if I do not have money to provide the best life possible for my family: I am not satisfying spouse and not fulfilling the commitment I made when I chose to get married.
I know that each marriage is different and as long at the whole family is happy- Live your life.
Flamm, I would suggest reading The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. I think you missed the most important point of my comment, which is that women worry about the future more than men do. That is a fact and we all know it. It's in their genetic code.
Being financially responsible leads them to feeling more secure about their future. Nobody wants to be poor forever and the woman that says that money doesn't matter is not being truthful in most cases.
LOL @ the thread we have going here.
I'll get off my soap box now :O)
We have taken over Spears blog. Upbringing has more to do with how a woman feels about money then anything I think. i actually asked my wife about what we were discussing and her answer was "It probably means more to women who are used to living life a certain way. For me, my family has never had much money and it hasn't been as important to me" Or something along those lines (guys remember details of their wive's conversations well). Maybe its a midwest thing as well, I'm sure that changes things a little. Either way, my advice to SPear is if you find a good woman that you want to marry or be with, dont let money or lack thereof hinder that from happening. I'd rather live in a box with a woman who i loved then have a bunch of money and a wife who I ended up with because I was READY for a marriage. Hope that makes sense. I just got off work.
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